Venus: The Attraction Planet
As we learned through the helpful eye of Mercury Richard has issues communicating his needs as well as his feelings especially once he is in a relationship. So now let us look at Richard's Venus profile so we can see how this affects him
Venus
Venus represents and symbolizes attraction; what you need and can give by way of love, affections, beauty, and happiness. It also reveals your social graces and charm but negatively can make you indulgent, superficial, wanton pleasure seeking which includes being anti-social. It shows us how to express ones self through art, and aesthetics and represents your ability to relate and harmonize. Venus is associated with female sexuality and sensuality. quite simply is represents what you like.
Like Mercury, Venus stays close to the sun and it amplifies what energy that the sun puts out. This is not a representation of sex love but of the art of loving in its intellectual sense. It shows us how we appreciate affection and the ability to appreciate being loved. Based off of the sign it will tell you what kind of affection we are willing to accept versus what the sun sign is willing to give. Our taste in furniture, the things that we collect, the type of earthly beauty that we wish to be around, our attitudes about loving all come from the energy of Venus. Not to be confused with the moon's energy, venus' energy is more representing the impact the mother has on the child's psyche which is more subtle.
Since Venus is considered to be a "womanly" influence it is no wonder that this Venus energy flows differently in a man. We all have an intellectual concept of what love is but how we direct the concept will be based off of sex. Richard's Venus is afflicted which means that his mother affects his concept of love on a subconscious level; and may unknowingly project that image onto other women. Richard's mother may have had little regard for women or even for herself when his personality was receptive to her attitudes. if she instilled in him that women are no good then he'll subconsciously carry that attitude with him resulting in having a double standard regarding matters of affection. also he could feel uncomfortable about receiving love or maintaining a love relationship. Richard may in fact project unhealthy attitudes towards women while feeling uncomfortable about his own need for love, or feeling capacity. Any aspects to Venus indicate whether or not we can easily handle emotional relationships, whether or not we feel comfortable in an emotional situation or whether we have to work at being able to become receptive to the love vibration within the universe.
Venus in Cancer
To someone like Richard, love is bound up with security; affection cannot exist without care. Something traditional and yet familiar about your partner. A feeling of belonging, an involvement with and acceptance of their family and your own. Depending on how loving or non loving Richard's mother was will greatly influences how much he shows and needs affection. Due to some unsure feelings about his mother Richard will blindly cling to a partner. There is also a tendency to behave in a sulky manner when reactions of past hurts are triggered by normal emotional confrontations so remember that you express love and beauty best in a homely and private way.
Venus in the 8th house
This tells us that Richard's love needs and feelings that he has draw him into having deep and involved relationships that are compelling, absorbing, and hard to get out of. Love needs to go beyond the shallow and commonplace, so emotional crises should be expected and taken in stride as his unconscious desires pull you closer to that core of intimacy. If you thought that you could satisfy those deep sexual or soulful needs that you have by mere physical sex, you'll be disappointed. Try to reach a deeper set of moral values so you deep bonds manifesting themselves as binding contracts.
Aspects to Venus
Venus conjunct Mercury
(Already covered in Mercury Blog)
Indicates that Richard's mother had an influence on the ability to communicate. Also can indicate how Richard is hampered by his mother's influence.since there are afflictions to 2 other planets Jupiter and Saturn (which affects his relate ability and his father's influence on his psyche in addition to interaction with the mother's influence on his psyche plus the inability to share, afraid to share and communication issues that were early on in childhood) this makes it a sensitive topic and a deeper look into family life.
Venus squaring Jupiter
(Already covered in Jupiter Blog)
Indicates that his mother was unpredictable and as a result Richard has a slight fear of women having unconscious memories of her reactions to life that were formed by the time he was 3 years old. His relating principle does not agree with the concept of love.
Venus squaring Saturn
Any Venus Saturn aspect shows that a major phase of personality are forced to consciousness in order that we may mature. The energy tends to restrict the part of the self that reaches out for self-satisfaction. This shows us how we view our capacity for self-worth and how confidence affects career accomplishment and personal relationships. in order to over this Richard needs to re-establish personal values as an adult. If we become the victim of the aspect we often create the same relationship problems that his parents had; he'll project his parents values onto those people we love and may develop an extremely pessimistic attitude about loving. If the pessimism is rampant then it usually means that the energies are usually put into the accumulation of money since it is a trust able commodity. usually if they are successful in the career department then they are lacking in the love department since that remains undeveloped. When loving and appreciating being loved is restricted, the possibility of spiritual attainment remains only an interesting concept.
Here the mother and father present an influence to Richard during his formative years that made it difficult for him to develop any sense of self-worth. In order for an androgynous personality to develop- a personality with the masculine and the feminine principle in balance- the parents must offer up an image that can help build the concept. A feeling of self worth is created by the constructive union of the masculine and feminine principles. because of the square they are both at odds with one another and this effected Richard during childhood heavily. Richard does not know how they feel about men or women, warmth and affection, or authority and the ability to execute a personal sense of order in the life. He carries an unconscious memory of mom and dad against each other, and this puts a feeling of apprehension in every relationship. Many internal or even subconscious apprehensions about relationships may occur because the parents didn't express enough affection in a healthy manner. People with this aspect often get into role-playing marriages; merely living with the parent but don't really share emotionally. We see that Richard was deprived of the kind of love that he needed, or one that was deprived of possessions that his parents didn't understand his attachment to. He doesn't enter into relationships easily nor do they work well or cooperatively when relationships compromises must be handled.
In order to break the power of the aspect Richard needs to stop looking for guarantees and learn to give confidence to his partner as well as look for it from the partner. Any behavior that Richard seems to be motivated by "my parents handled it this way" should be questioned because it may be an indication of an unhealthy family pattern that will also create the same problems in the children that Richard parents. Simply put Richard comes from a bleak childhood. He didn't have a chance to learn how to give or how to receive for it wasn't done by the parents. this aspect can be overcome by deciding to learn how to give and how to receive, how to appreciate, how to take a chance in a love relationship, how to work through a compromise without a feeling of loss.
Putting it all together
Venus puts into perspective of where Richard gets his feelings towards love affection and attention from- watching the relationship that his mother and father had till the age of 3. These subconscious memories that Richard is carrying with him into adulthood all stem from witnessing his parents use words that caused pain and hurt. Watching his mother's physical reactions and father's dismissal gave Richard an unclear sense of masculinity and femininity creating the little to no feelings of self worth. When Richard did try and communicate it wasn't received well by his father who tried to silence him which it seems that he treated his mother the same way. Richard's mother accepted this treatment and taught Richard that women aren't good; something that he still keeps in the back of his mind. This makes Richard very hesitant to even want any type of relationships with people. Love is forsaken for the safety and security of money and the loneliness that follows without having someone to share it with. Because his parents "played the role" instead of Engaging in one another life Richard learned that that is how one handles a relationship. Whether he was aware of it or not Richard is following the same steps that his parents made and the end result will be him raising a child in the exact same way that he was raised if he doesn't make a conscious effort to find his own self-worth and the worth of his partner. That the need to communicate in a deep and meaningful way can be achieved if he really works at it since this concept was never shown to him within his own family. Even though Richard doesn't want to become like his father, he is the only person that he has to imitate and if he isn't able to reconcile his father's negative aspects within himself, creating a positive sense of masculinity then he will end up being him. Likewise if he doesn't reconcile his mother's negative aspects within himself, creating a positive sense of femininity then he will end up being antisocial and an inability to show affection or love. it is easier for Richard to seek comfort more in material things than in a pursuit of love. Subconsciously Richard took these lessons to heart and this is where he begins to develop his fear of receiving love and affection from women, his inability to show love and affection, and the higher importance of money than love. From the parents relationship or lack their of we see that Richard didn't have a healthy sense of family; of the masculine and feminine principles and he didn't learn to have a sense of self due to his father's and mother's behavior up and until the age of 3.
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