Friday, February 8, 2013

Aquarius Question Regarding Relationships...


An Aquarius woman asked me this question in regards to her not being able to find a long lasting relationship. Normally, I have your birth chart, read through the signs and see where your relationship hangups are but since I do not have this person's chart I didn it the old- fashioned way: I  read her sun sign and figured out the answer based off of that information.
 
Question: Why do men not want a lasting relationship with me?

Answer:  Your inability to handle life situations in an emotional way hinders you from finding a long lasting relationship. Since you approach everything with a rational mind including relationships you are only going to be able to play the role of “girlfriend” going through the motions with your partner instead of engaging/relating with your partner in an emotional way.  Your lack of relating to others due to being isolated as a child or feeling alone when surrounded by a group of people also has a lot to do with this. Its hard growing up in an environment where there is no positive interactions between the parents that can guide you into adulthood. This comes from you watching the intersections with your parents because they didn’t relate to one another in front of you. As with all air signs, you looked towards your father for your inspiration growing up but was denied his approval and acceptance. Something happened that drove a wedge between you two and you haven’t been the same since. Due to this separation you have developed issues relating to others; you have a hard time paying attention to anyone else’s problems unless they are your own. Since there are hard feelings between you and your mother you never paid too much attention to anything that she did and looked down on her and her views. As a result you look down on anything feminine or anything that is too emotional. This includes yourself or males that seem too soft. You have an issue when it comes to the concept of women in general because your mother never showed you how to be comfortable with your body sexually. You focus on your mental attributes far more than your physical body making it unfamiliar to you creating the insecurity that you feel within yourself. When people, especially when you are in a relationship, pay too much attention to your body you become insecure. This insecurity makes you reassure yourself as a woman but get too nervous when too much attention is focused on the body. Then your internal dilemma begins: pay more attention to the intellect (where it is comfortable, rational and safe)or to the emotions(where its foreign, messy and hurtful). This is carrying through to adulthood and manifesting itself as having short meaningless relationships. Also, when you are feeling emotionally insecure you become promiscuous because you are searching for reassurance outwardly that your father refused to give you and by extension the men you seek out in your life.  Self reassurance is an inward feeling that comes from within; not gained from the approval of others. Sex does not equal love. Sex is sex; love is love. When the two are confused (as you do much of this) it leads to hurt feelings and pain. When you realize that you are making these mistakes the pain will lessen.  

 

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