Ashlee's Venus Profile

Ashlee's Venus Profile: The Sign, house, Aspects

 

 

In the previous blog I revealed the Mercury Retrograde aspect of my personality. It shows the way that I perceive the world around me and how my brain works. Now we are going to look at Venus; the planet that governs over my moon and my emotions.

Venus: Attraction and Harmony

Venus symbolizes attraction- what you need and can give by way of love and affection, beauty, and happiness. A positive Venus shows as the social graces and charm. Negatively it represents indulgence, superficiality , and wanton pleasure- seeking- all of which could imply simply being anti-social. Venus also represents your ability to relate, harmonize and to express yourself through art and a sense of aesthetics. Venus also has a great deal to do with female sexuality and sensuality generally. Venus symbolizes what you like.

It is a planet that is never too far away from the sun; therefore it can only amplify the sun's energy. Venus represent our ability to love; not sex love, but the art of loving in it intellectual sense . Venus symbolizes our ability to appreciate being loved and how we appreciate affection. The sign that indicates the kind of affection  we will accept versus what the Sun sign is willing to give. The type of earthly beauty that we wish to be around, our taste in furniture and clothing, the things that we collect, our attitudes about loving, all come from Venus. It can represent the person we want to be and causes a dilemma when the Venus placement is different from that of the Sun.

Venus, on the other hand represents the impact that the mother has on the child's psyche and it is a more subtle thing. Each mother has her own attitudes regarding the concept of motherhood, the responsibilities of rearing children, and viewpoints regarding self-value. If a mother has poorly developed concepts of regarding the feminine principle if her self-esteem is low, if she thinks that women ( or the feminine) have little value, these concepts will be passed on to her child. Hard aspects to Venus can indicate if she affects her child adversely because of her state of mind at the time. Because a child is influenced during the first three years of its life, the effect on the subconscious may be difficult to self-diagnose. The mother may change, mature, become self- aware, develop self-esteem later and the individual wont remember the early pattern.

Venus operates differently in a man's chart than in a women's. When a women has hard aspects to Venus, she responds differently. She is receptive( during the formative years) to the attitudes projected by her mother; her response to the mother's influence is directed at herself. She may feel like a second class citizen, she may feel that women have no rights, and she may have little sense of self-esteem. She may be apprehensive regarding the role of the biological female; all phases of the reproductive and mothering process may be affected in some adverse manner, ranging from avoiding motherhood to overcompensating for her dislike or apprehension regarding the child-like process.

In contemporary society, she may be involved with women's liberation for all the wrong reasons. she may be defensive of herself and her rights, not seeing clearly that those ideas could be better established within. If she has no regard for her femininity, she may respond to love and affection with difficulty- it may not seem natural to her. She may reject men who are nice to her, for when a women regards herself as second rate she will suspicious of anyone who likes her. As she becomes conscious of the limitations of the hard aspects, she can cure them and thereby enter into more satisfying relationships.

The aspects to Venus tell whether or not we can easily handle emotional relationships, whether or not we really feel comfortable in an emotional situation or whether we have to work at being able to become receptive to the love vibration in the universe.

Venus in Aries

You love in a child-like way, regarding relationships as being natural and uncomplicated- at least initially. You are giving, guileless and forthright- and somewhat naively expect others to be so too. You are upset when you find that they are not, but noe usually heart-broken. You get back up as quickly as you fell in love in the first place. Your freshness and impulsiveness is spontaneously attractive to others, and more or less cuts through any caution that they might have.

It also makes you very impatient to give, gain or receive love. So much so that you are inclined to mistake infatuations or lust for love, and it takes a while before you are able to spot the difference. Then again, it could be sheer desperation on your part that sets you up with a poor match. There is something impish and naughty about you that can cause others to do childlike things they wouldn't do normally. This has its good  and bad sides in that you are able to introduce a refreshingly primitive glee into your social or romantic sphere. But you can lead others on and then be gone.

Venus in the 11th house

You want to experience these senses and bring this style of loving in an open, friendly, possibly somewhat detached and idealistic sphere of social activity. Your Venus sign qualities may or may not  lead themselves well to this. You very much want your partner to be on good terms with your friends and associates, and to share your social aspirations.

Conflicting aims or social values can spell disruption or death to a relationship. Knowing a lover initially as a friend is a strong prerequisite to having a harmonious relationship. And the actual meeting of your mate is more likely to occur at a club or some group gathering. Your social sense is quite evolved or future-oriented, but in this respect you are inclined to forget that one person's meat is another ones poison.

Venus in the Aspects

Venus opposing Saturn
When Venus and Saturn are in aspect, major phases of personality are forced to consciousness in order that we may mature. These contacts have not been easy ones in the people I've observed, for the energy tends to restrict the part of the self that reaches out for self satisfaction.

The Venus position indicates how our mother affects our psyche in regard to the feminine function; it indicates how she influences the development of a concept of womanhood, the concept of self gratification, and in a personal sense she influences our ability to love and appreciate being loved. Saturn represents our father's impact on our psyche during our early years. The Saturn placement is traditionally interpreted as a restriction; some astrologers explain it as "I lack" and it certainly represents an aspect of personality that is the least confident. The Saturn influence indicates the concept of self-worth and , as maturity occurs, self-confidence can develop in this area because Saturn becomes the strong point in the chart as the cycles of life progress.

The combination of these two facets of life indicate how we view our capacity for self-worth and how confidence affects between these planet sometimes cause an individual to pursue only career goals, for the emotional life my be repressed. In order to overcome Venus-Saturn aspects we have to reestablish personal values as adults. If we become victim of the aspect we often create the same relationship problems that our parents had; we project our parent's values into those people we love, and we may develop an extremely pessimistic attitude about loving. When pessimism is rampant, it usually indicates that all the energies are put into the accumulation of money, for money is a "trustable" commodity.

When people with hard Venus-Saturn aspects are successful in terms of career, it usually indicates that they have not been successful or fulfilled in the love department, for that part of themselves remains undeveloped. At some point in life it is important to experience love and affection; it's easier to reach a higher consciousness when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable in a feeling situation. If we cannot "put out" on a personal level, our philosophy of life is only a theory. A higher consciousness cannot be thought, it must be felt. When loving and appreciating being loved is restricted, the possibility of spiritual attainment remains only in an interesting concept.

Here the energy leaves you having an additional feeling of compromise or  loss ( or both). Venus symbolizes the effect of the mother and Saturn represents the affect of the father on the individual, and the images are confused. One parent may leave when the person is a child; but even if the loss of a parent doesn't occur, the person feels like a victim between the two parents who are each throwing a different vibration into his developing psyche. What is a man? what is a woman? How does one treat men and women, how does one feel about oneself and one's relationships with members of the opposite sex?

This often represents an individual who has losses in love because the psyche is programmed to lose; this individual may fall in love with someone who is unavailable or with someone who dies or who makes him intensely miserable. The parents removed the objects that the person was attached to during his formative years. The "love object" may have been a favorite toy, or a security blanket, or the affection of one of both of the parents. One parent may have been harsh to the other; one parent may have suppressed the other; the child saw the parents disliking each other in some way. So the image in the psyche carries a message that men and women are against each other- each must make the other compromise in some way.

The ability to love is harshened, or lessened and frequently authority is resented. When Saturn oppresses Venus, the father is harsh with the mother because Saturn is a stronger planet than Venus. It makes the person suspicious of their own desires, unnecessarily hard on himself, willing to give up pleasure, and ready to turn from love.

The mother didn't value herself, and this person will absorb her feelings: women have little value, love can hurt or love can be a harsh experience. This individual grows up to be very cautious about developing relationships, and it is this feeling of caution that makes him look for the love insurance policies that are unattainable. This is the type of personality that doesn't give of itself or gives only of the material self, or one who unconsciously picks someone to love who is taken from him.

Venus opposing Pluto

Venus symbolizes the intellectual concept of love; the regard for the feminine or the feminine principle. The attitudes affecting a woman's self worth and her response to her biological role comes from this placement for it indicates the attitudes of the mother in regard to her own nature when the individuals psyche is able to absorb those feelings. Pluto can be identified as the unconscious motivation of a generation as well as symbolizing the portion of the collective unconscious that holds the mythic archetypal images of humanity. When this symbol is not understood consciously, it can reflect as aspect of personality that is less spectacular but more commonly recognized as forms of personal control and obsession. The hard aspects to Pluto will require that the individual move from obsessive responses to transformation and regeneration. The hard aspects may in fact cause more growth potential than the easy ones.

When Venus and Pluto come together it is obvious that the effect of the combines energies will influence the personal capacity for love. The range of feeling experience is phenomenal for one can easily cooperate with the mood of the generation, changing the patterns of social custom in a manner complementary to previous traditions, or one can function in a highly controlled manner.

In the personal sense the combination reflects the possibility of including manipulation in the life experience. Because Venues is involved, the manipulation or obsession or control/power games comes from the mother influence. A person who is exposed to power games in childhood will develop into an adult who thinks that he must control everyone as well- because a child can only imitate what he sees his parents doing. The facet of life that has to do with love and affection will be the areas of heaviest manipulation.

In order to use the tie to the collective unconscious (symbolized by Pluto) the more obvious misuses of the energy will have to be rechanneled. When an individual takes responsibility for his actions, when he can recognize the control games that he plays, he can let them go. When this occurs, the energy becomes creative and exciting. The ideas are new, the fountain from the collective unconscious never runs dry. The struggle is worth it.

The psychological effect of the mother on this individual's developing psyche was a profound one. This person feels the need to compromise as well as control. The other managed the native's development. she may have decided what was good for this person, enforcing her decisions by not allowing him to make any decisions for himself. Because she may have had such an overwhelming personality, the individual develops a resentment toward her and other women over the ensuing years.

The concept of love included management, and this individual may attempt to develop love situations with partners who are easily managed. The female may fear her own femininity and may feel that in order to keep a man around, he must be manipulated. Both sexes will more than often get into role-playing marriages than good relationships, for they won't allow themselves to be spontaneous in love situations.

Pluto aspects inhibit the capacity for letting go of urges to control. The person has known no other way to approach life. Because Pluto symbolizes the collective unconsciousness and the mythic archetypes of human expression, the mother image can become distorted and confused. The personal mother may become confused with the myth is mother image, giving the personal mother a power that she doesn't recognize she has over the child. The resentments caused by this confusion may be difficult to let go until the confusion is consciously recognized.

In order to free the energy so that it can be used creatively, control games must be analyzed. Personal responsibility, morality, and ethics regarding those we love must be established on the conscious plane. We cannot make anyone love us, we cannot make the future of those we love; no one is dependent on us for survival. We cannot be responsible for anyone else.

Venus sextile the Ascendant
(Already covered in the big 3 Aspected)

Putting it All Together:

I naturally love people openly, honestly and unconditionally; generally accepting people as they are. I thrive when the people I surround myself are happy as well.  I grew up in an unloving childhood environment and it was made known that my father was opposed to me coming into this world- if it meant my death or my mothers he chose for me to be aborted rather than loosing her. So when she chose to keep me and bring me into this world it changed my father. He become extremely harsh towards me and refused to show me love; only that I was his burden that he wanted to "wash his hands of." He controlled the household; his rules or the highway. He treated my mother as if he didn't like her and said the reason had to do with me. He taught me to rule with an iron fist; that I was to rule with fear and oppression because it was better than to be loved by all.  My mother took her frustrations out on me making me feel like a was a second class citizen. I never saw them happy together or even laugh in the same room... I learned how to negatively survive this world and as a result I became a very cruel person. It wasn't till I understood that I shouldn't take any of my cues from my parents that I could see their behavior for what it was- horrible and not something that I wanted to pass down to my children. I had to learn which traits to pick and choose from in order for myself to grow. Next I looked to Mother nature and father time to be my surrogate parents so that I could learn positive attributes and instill them deep within me so I could become the person that I am today.  








Paris' Venus Profile...

Paris' Venus Profile

The planetary influence of Venus shows us our attractions and our harmony. It can show you what you need and can give by way of love and affection, beauty and happiness. Positively it shows as social graces and charm. negatively represents indulgence, superficiality and wanton pleasure seeking which can be interpreted as anti-social. It also represent the ability to relate, harmonize, and to express ones self through art and a sense of aesthetics. it has a great deal to do with female sexuality and sensuality and symbolizes what you like.

 

Venus is never far from the Sun but here it is. Venus is usually one sign ahead or behind the sun just as Mercury is. Here Venus is 2 signs behind the sun which is very unique. It represents the impact of the mother has on the child's psyche on a subconscious level. Every mother has her own attitudes regarding the concept of motherhood, the responsibilities of rearing children and viewpoints regarding self- value. If her mother had poorly developed concepts of regarding the feminine principle, if her self-esteem is low if she thinks that woman (or the feminine) have little value, these concepts will be passed into the child. Hard aspects indicate that Paris' mother affected her child adversely because of her state of mind at the time. Because this influence happens within the first 3 years of Paris' life the effect on the subconscious is hard to diagnose. The mother may change, mature, become self aware, develop self esteem later, and Paris won't remember the early pattern. Shaina is receptive in the formative years to the attitudes projected by her mother; but her response to the mother's influence is directed at herself. Paris may feel like she is a second class citizen, she may feel that women have no rights, and she may have little sense of self-esteem. She may be apprehensive regarding the role of the biological female; all phrases of the reproductive and mothering process may be affected in some adverse way, ranging from avoiding motherhood to overcompensating for her dislike or apprehension regarding the child rearing process. Paris may be defensive of herself and her rights not seeing clearly that those ideas could be better established within. If Paris has no need of her femininity, she may respond to love and affection with difficulty- it not seem natural to her. She may reject men who are nice to her, for when a woman regards herself as second rate she will be suspicious of anyone who likes her. As Paris becomes conscious of the limitations of her hard aspects she can cure them and thereby enter into more satisfying relationships.

 

Venus in Gemini

Paris likes to keep love at an adolescent level of expression. She likes the flirting, chasing and the love games, and do not like it when things get too heavy or committed. For her, love is in bud rather than in full bloom, so if you want something to last, you have to give it a chance to develop, be more steadfast, and not abandon it to the winds of fate. For her love and beauty are things of the mind, and so you may well have some literary ability. In real life, though, your predilection for keeping things light and airy can be a serious hazard to maintaining a mature relationship. And her natural flightiness would be better or well employed in some art form like dance or song. In essence, you are having a relationship with yourself. As long as this does not become too materialistic or narcissistic and wrap you up in yourself, you do keep the love stacks fresh and interesting.

 

Venus in the 11th house

Paris wants to experience these senses and bring this style of loving into an open friendly possibly somewhat detached and idealistic sphere of social activity. Her Venus sign qualities may not lend themselves well to this. She very much wants a partner to be on good terms with her friends and associates and to share her social aspirations. Conflicting aims or social values can spell disruption or death to a relationship. Knowing her lover initially as a friend is a strong prerequisite to having a harmonious relationship. And the actual meeting  of your mate is more likely to occur at a club or some group gathering. Her social sense is quite evolved or future-oriented, but in this respect she is inclined to forget that one person's meat is another one's poison.

 

Aspects to Venus

 

Venus sextile Jupiter

The sextile indicates a person whose psyche is constructively affect by her mother for she shows her that relationships can take place, that one can reach out and be favorably received. Metaphysically speaking, we all get what we expect. Some people are able to reach out naturally- to respond to others to ask for what is needed because the early childhood environment was encouraging. This individual will have an inner sense of security that will enable her to have the confidence she needs to pursue her goals. This aspect indicates a predilection for comfortable emotional relationships, and she will pass her responsiveness on to her children.

 

Venus opposing Uranus

Venus symbolizes our intellectual concept of love how we appreciate beauty, how we receive love how we approach our wants in life. it tells us something about the concept of femininity that we absorb from our mother during our formative years. Uranus is more of a generational symbol that has to do with our behavioral urges our eccentricities our more willful behavior as well as an attitude toward consciousness. When these two facets of personality combine the concept of love becomes more farsighted, perhaps more unusual or unorthodox. Here the talent in the aspect has to be worked for because the individual arrives in a difficult family atmosphere and absorbs some unproductive behavior patterns from the mother. Venus indicates that the affect of the mother on the child's psyche. Her influence will affect the formation of Paris' concept of what a woman is as well as the concept of affection, love and the ability to receive it. Uranus indicates the behavior pattern of the generation the individual is born into and the sign and house placement will show areas of willfulness and erratic or eccentric behavior. When the opposition takes place it indicates that the person is subject to some kind of loos in childhood; the aspect may or may not be as severe as Saturn afflictions to Venus. The rest of the chart will tell whether or not the mother was cruel- looking at the aspects of the moon, sun, ascendant, and determine the effects of the fourth house in order to further understand the affect of the mother. She may or may not have been cruel to the person she may have just not been involved or not cared. The aspect shapes an adult who jumps in and out of love affairs and doesn't know what she wants, for Venus represents the "I want" nature and Uranus makes that erratic. Paris' may jump from one relationship to the next, or one job to the next, or even jump in and out of career training programs for she changes her mind a lot. She doesn't know what to expect from her own emotional nature or how to receive the love given to her. She may be warm and affectionate one minute and gone the next. The fear of relationships may have something to do with the fact that her mother had an erratic personality; she may have been unpredictable when she was a child. No matter how stable she is later in life, Paris still fears a trusting relationship. The female has more difficulty with this aspect for it alters the concept of the biological female role and she may not feel comfortable coping with children (When childhood is extremely unpleasant the adult may subconsciously avoid creating and similar circumstance. This can put a damper on a relationships.) If I had to guess I would say that Paris may have been physically or mentally abused in some way when she was a child. In order to break the power of this aspect, unhealthy or erratic behavior patterns must become conscious. The abrupt handling of emotional relationships can be altered by analyzing past relationships especially in a therapeutic setting. 

 

Venus semisquare Pluto

Venus symbolizes the intellectual concept of love; the regard for the feminine or the feminine principle. the attitude affecting a women's self worth and her response to her biological role comes from this placement for it indicates the attitudes of the mother in regard to her own nature when the individuals' psyche is able to absorb those feelings. Pluto can be identified as the unconscious motivation of a generation as well as symbolizing the portion of the collective unconscious that holds the mythic archetypal images of humanity. When this symbol is not understood consciously, it can reflect as aspect of personality that is less spectacular but more commonly recognized as forms of personal control and obsession. The hard aspects to Pluto will require that the individual move from obsessive responses to transformation and regeneration. The hard aspects may in fact cause more growth potential than the easy ones.  When Venus and Pluto come together it is obvious that the effort of the combined energies will influence the personal capacity for love. The range of feeling experience is a phenomenal for one can easily cooperate with the mood of the generation changing the patterns of social custom in a manner complementary to previous traditions , or one can function in a highly controlled manner. In the personal sense the combination reflects the possibility of including manipulation in the life experience. Because Venus is involved, the manipulation or obsession or control/power game comes from the mother influence. A person who is exposed to power games in childhood will develop into an adult who thinks she must control everyone as well- because a child can only imitate what she sees her parents doing. The facet of life that has to do with love and affection  will be the area of heaviest manipulation. In order to use the tie to the collective unconscious (symbolized by Pluto) the more obvious misuses of the energy will have to be rechanneled. When an individual takes responsibility for her actions, when she can recognize the control games that she plays, she can let them go.  When this occurs, the energy becomes creative and exciting. The ideas are new, the fountain from the collective unconscious never runs dry. The struggle is worth it. Here the mother provided an unhealthy atmosphere for the native when she was forming her reactions to the  "female" part of the world., when her psyche was developing an ability to love and to appreciate being loved, the mother was responding to her life in a plutonic manner. For some reason the mother of this individual felt that it was important to control all of the people she loved and she may have drained her family. This created a feeling in the individual that all women drain one, that all females are out to manipulate. If the Pluto influence was a physical one it will be more comprehensible in later years; but if the mother used the manipulative power of "smother love" this person may be forced to confront her at some point and this guilt over having to do so may inhibit her capacity for solving the aspect. This aspect tends to unconsciously attempt to control others. One way for the individual to become aware of how he does this is by observing others' reactions to her manipulative games. Strongly self contained people will avoid her for she tries to manipulate them, and manipulation is usually an indirect action. Some people resent controls being placed on them by the person with the Venus-Pluto semisquare, for her energy makes her feel cornered unfree unable to breathe around the Plutonic personality. The person with the aspect is often totally unaware of what she is doing, for her know no other to be. The female with this aspect feels she must hold on to her position for all it's worth or she wont have one. When Pluto aspects are strong in the natal chart it indicates a powerful personality with lots of potential for growth, but the energy must be used consciously or the individual tends to be used by it; the individual may be a victim of her own energy. When the individual can trust the natural power within, the inner self can guide her and she begins to allow things to happen. We cannot make anyone love us; we can "make" them act politely towards us, love is always a voluntary experience. When giving up controls we have to confront the fact the love cannot be forced, not made to happen. We can control with power, prestige, money or our manipulative abilities but we can never have inner feelings of security if we are living that way. When the inner confidence comes, so does the creativity.  

  

 

 

 

 

Shaina's Venus Profile...

Shaina's Venus Profile

 

Yesterday we took a look at the planet Saturn and discovered how the psychological influence of the father stayed with Shaina into her adulthood. Now we are going to see the psychological influence that the mother had over Shania.

 

Venus

The planetary influence of Venus shows us our attractions and our harmony. It can show you what you need and can give by way of love and affection, beauty and happiness. Positively it shows as social graces and charm. negatively represents indulgence, superficiallity and wanton pleasure seeking which can be interpreted as anti-social. It also represent the ability to relate, harmonize, and to express ones self through art and a sense of aesthetics. it has a great deal to do with female sexuality and sensuality and symbolizes what you like.

 

Venus is never far from the Sun but here it is. Venus is usually one sign ahead or behind the sun just as Mercury is. Here Venus is 2 signs behind the sun which is very unique. It represents the impact of the mother has on the child's psyche on a subconscious level. Every mother has her own attitudes regarding the concenpt of motherhood, the responcibilities of rearing children and viewpoints regarding self- value. If her mother had poorly developed concepts of regarding the feminine princible, if her self-estteem is low if she thinks that woman (or the feminine) have little value, these concepts will be passed into the child. Hard aspects indicate that Shaina's mother affected her child adversely becuase of her state of mind at the time. Becuase this influence happens within the first 3 years of Shaina's life the effect on the subconscious is hard to diagnose. The mother may change, mature, become self aware, develop self easttem later, and Sahina won't remember the early pattern. Shaina is receptive in the formative years to the attitudes projected by her mother; but her responce to the mother's influence is directed at herself. Shaina may feel like she is a second class citizen, she amy feel that women have no rights, and she may have little sense of self-esteem. She may be apprehensive regarding the role of the biological female; all phrases of the reproductive and mothering process may be affected in some adverse way, ranging from avoiding motherhood to overcompinsating for her dislike or apprehension regarding the child rearing process. Shaina may be defenseive of herself and her rights not seeing clearly that those ideas could be better established within. If Shaina has no need of her femininty, she may respond to love and affection with difficulty- it not seem natural to her. She may reject men who are nice to her, for when a woman regards herself as second rate she will be suspicious of anyone who likes her. As Shaina becomes conscious of the limitations of her hard aspects she can cure them and thereby enter into more satisfying relationships.  

 

Venus in Scorpio

Shaina loves deeply and intensely. Perhaps a bit too much, for she can find herself consumed by desire- and then mistake it for love. She will then wind you up trying to satisfy her emotional hunger with sexual indulgence, which doesn't bring her love. Or else she gets herself into a tight relationship where each of them is help hostage by her fearful needs. Or she might attempt to step out of the intimacy stakes altogether which takes some doing. What Shaina really needs to do is return to her first principles: you love deeply becuase at a deep level you want love to transform you. This presupposes that she do not know what love is until it has transformed her and her idea of it. In this way and in this way only can Shaina discover the profound commitment that she craves.

 

Venus in the 4th House

Shaina finds expression in her home and private life. so her interior decor is tasteful, and her flair for this might be employed on a professional level. Romance too is more happily persued in the home or family envirionemnt, where there is more likely to be a warm atmshpere and no unwelcome intrusions. Shaina's father and background are the wellspring of your sense of grace and charm and in times of stress Shaina will retreat to regenerate in her nest of pleasingly familiar surroundings.

 

Aspects to Venus

 

Venus Opposing Chairon

If they react to the confrontation by healing themselves and others they may develop talent as a teacher, counselor, healer, or visionary. Otherwise, they may find themselves flipping back and forth between wanting relationship and wanting to protect themselves from facing the painful issues. They may be drawn to toxic and painful relationships, and may sacrifice the rest of their lives in an attempt to endure the situation until the end. Chiron in this position may connotate somewhat of a loner who has learned to avoid relationships in order to preserve some semblance of inner peace, or in order to keep from engaging in painful interactions. However, the Chiron opposite Venus native may still feel compelled to act out a mentor/student relationship, which can still lead to other forms of relationship in the end.People with this aspect also have a problem with remaining comfortable and secure in their lives, as the financial security they seek is often the source of conflict, or may provide a toxic environment on some level. However, whether the aspect is applying to jobs or relationships, a focus on healing, education, and rising above it all may be the answer to resolving a difficult situation.

 

 

Venus is unaspected with any other planet:

 

Shaina very much needs a partner so that she can feel related and close. The qualities can then be experienced which means that she then feels an integrated member of soceity. In the process however she can exhibit a more or less take-it-or-leave-it attitude when it comes to love ties and social committments. This is because she is predisposed to expect a certain amount of freedom with regard to social involvements- as if there were no rules or constraints invloved. This kind of floating attitude can either be expressed by her as waywardness or irresponcibilty where relationships are concerned or, by way of compensation, she will be attreacted to partnerdhips where limitations and duties sharply defined. The former expression is more likely if there are indications of restlessness or evasiveness elsewhere in your personality; the latter will be more the case if her personality has a conservative bent or where the safer options are pursued in personal relationships. But at some stage of her early life Shaina felt socially confused, like an outcast or disinherited as a result of the diffuculty here in finding or knowing her social or romantic place.

 

 

Putting it all Together:

Looking at Shaina's Venus profile we see that Mother has alot to do with how Shaina interepets her self worth and her self value the way that her mother did. What Shaina has to remember is thaat eventhough she is a combination of mother and father it is up to her to be herself; pick the best parts of mom and dad and blend them together inside of her or completely discard what her parents taught her and be free to be the person that she has always wanted to be but didn't know how to go about it. There is a huge pull within Shaina to be exactly like her mother; but she is better than her mother in so many ways if she would just take the time to acknowledge herself in a positive light. It is interesting to note that it was her father that showed her how to retreat into pleasant surroundings not her mother. Maybe this started out as a coping mechanism that turned into a way of life to escape the dominating mother figure in her life. When Shaina begins to develop a healthy sense of herself for the right reasons she will be much happier with herself inside and out. The hard part for Shaina is to be open enough to see patterns that her parents had and not fall into the same trap of becoming them. Due to her parents "role playing" relationship Shaina has an incomplete understanding of what it truly means to love someone. she has so many apprehensions towards it that she will not be able to grow untill she understands that love is not sex and that you cannot get love from sex. Love is something that takes time, energy and effort but if she is willing to relate to her partnes in a loving and affectionalte manner without smothering then most of her mother issues will dissapear.  

Venus: The Attraction Planet Within Richard's Chart...

Venus: The Attraction Planet

 

As we learned through the helpful eye of Mercury Richard has issues communicating his needs as well as his feelings especially once he is in a relationship. So now let us look at Richard's Venus profile so we can see how this affects him

 

Venus

Venus represents and symbolizes attraction; what you need and can give by way of love, affections, beauty, and happiness. It also reveals your social graces and charm but negatively can make you indulgent, superficial, wanton pleasure seeking which includes being anti-social. It shows us how to express ones self through art, and aesthetics and represents your ability to relate and harmonize. Venus is associated with female sexuality and sensuality. quite simply is represents what you like.

 

Like Mercury, Venus stays close to the sun and it amplifies what energy that the sun puts out. This is not a representation of sex love but of the art of loving in its intellectual sense. It shows us how we appreciate affection and the ability to appreciate being loved. Based off of the sign it will tell you what kind of affection we are willing to accept versus what the sun sign is willing to give. Our taste in furniture, the things that we collect, the type of earthly beauty that we wish to be around, our attitudes about loving all come from the energy of Venus. Not to be confused with the moon's energy, venus' energy is more representing the impact the mother has on the child's psyche which is more subtle.

 

Since Venus is considered to be a "womanly" influence it is no wonder that this Venus energy flows differently in a man. We all have an intellectual concept of what love is but how we direct the concept will be based off of sex. Richard's Venus is afflicted which means that his mother affects his concept of love on a subconscious level; and may unknowingly project that image onto other women. Richard's mother may have had little regard for women or even for herself when his personality was receptive to her attitudes. if she instilled in him that women are no good then he'll subconsciously carry that attitude with him resulting in having a double standard regarding matters of affection. also he could feel uncomfortable about receiving love or maintaining a love relationship. Richard may in fact project unhealthy attitudes towards women while feeling uncomfortable about his own need for love, or feeling capacity. Any aspects to Venus indicate whether or not we can easily handle emotional relationships, whether or not we feel comfortable in an emotional situation or whether we have to work at being able to become receptive to the love vibration within the universe.  

 

Venus in Cancer

To someone like Richard, love is bound up with security; affection cannot exist without care. Something traditional and yet familiar about your partner. A feeling of belonging, an involvement with and acceptance of their family and your own. Depending on how loving or non loving Richard's mother was will greatly influences how much he shows and needs affection. Due to some unsure feelings about his mother Richard will blindly cling to a partner. There is also a tendency to behave in a sulky manner when reactions of past hurts are triggered by normal emotional confrontations so remember that you express love and beauty best in a homely and private way.

 

Venus in the 8th house

This tells us that Richard's love needs and feelings that he has draw him into having deep and involved relationships that are compelling, absorbing, and hard to get out of. Love needs to go beyond the shallow and commonplace, so emotional crises should be expected and taken in stride as his unconscious desires pull you closer to that core of intimacy. If you thought that you could satisfy those deep sexual or soulful needs that you have by mere physical sex, you'll be disappointed. Try to reach a deeper set of moral values so you deep bonds manifesting themselves as binding contracts.  

 

Aspects to Venus

Venus conjunct Mercury

(Already covered in Mercury Blog)

Indicates that Richard's mother had an influence on the ability to communicate. Also can indicate how Richard is hampered by his mother's influence.since there are afflictions to 2 other planets Jupiter and Saturn  (which affects his relate ability and his father's influence on his psyche in addition to interaction with the mother's influence on his psyche plus the inability to share, afraid to share and communication issues that were early on in childhood) this makes it a sensitive topic and a deeper look into family life.  

 

Venus squaring Jupiter

(Already covered in Jupiter Blog)

Indicates that his mother was unpredictable and as a result Richard has a slight fear of women having unconscious memories of her reactions to life that were formed by the time he was 3 years old. His relating principle does not agree with the concept of love. 

 

Venus squaring Saturn

Any Venus Saturn aspect shows that a major phase of personality are forced to consciousness in order that we may mature. The energy tends to restrict the part of the self that reaches out for self-satisfaction. This shows us how we view our capacity for self-worth and how confidence affects career accomplishment and personal relationships. in order to over this Richard needs to re-establish personal values as an adult. If we become the victim of the aspect we often create the same relationship problems that his parents had; he'll project his parents values onto those people we love and may develop an extremely pessimistic attitude about loving. If the pessimism is rampant then it usually means that the energies are usually put into the accumulation of money since it is a trust able commodity. usually if they are successful in the career department then they are lacking in the love department since that remains undeveloped. When loving and appreciating being loved is restricted, the possibility of spiritual attainment remains only an interesting concept.

 

Here the mother and father present an influence to Richard during his formative years that made it difficult for him to develop any sense of self-worth. In order for an androgynous personality to develop- a personality with the masculine and the feminine principle in balance- the parents must offer up an image that can help build the concept. A feeling of self worth is created by the constructive union of the masculine and feminine principles. because of the square they are both at odds with one another and this effected Richard during childhood heavily. Richard does not know how they feel about men or women, warmth and affection, or authority and the ability to execute a personal sense of order in the life. He carries an unconscious memory of mom and dad against each other, and this puts a feeling of apprehension in every relationship. Many internal or even  subconscious apprehensions about relationships may occur because the parents didn't express enough  affection in a healthy manner. People with this aspect often get into role-playing marriages; merely living with the parent but don't really share emotionally. We see that Richard was deprived of the kind of love that he needed, or one that was deprived of possessions that his parents didn't understand his attachment to. He doesn't enter into relationships easily nor do they work well or cooperatively when relationships compromises must be handled.

 

In order to break the power of the aspect Richard needs to stop looking for guarantees and learn to give confidence to his partner as well as look for it from the partner. Any behavior that Richard seems to be motivated by "my parents handled it this way" should be questioned because it may be an indication of an unhealthy family pattern that will also create the same problems in the children that Richard parents. Simply put Richard comes from a bleak childhood. He didn't have a chance to learn how to give or how to receive for it wasn't done by the parents. this aspect can be overcome by deciding to learn how to give and how to receive, how to appreciate, how to take a chance in a love relationship, how to work through a compromise without a feeling of loss.   

 

Putting it all together

Venus puts into perspective of where Richard gets his feelings towards love affection and attention from- watching the relationship that his mother and father had till the age of 3. These subconscious memories that Richard is carrying with him into adulthood all stem from witnessing his parents use words that caused pain and hurt. Watching his mother's physical reactions and father's dismissal gave Richard an unclear sense of masculinity and femininity creating the little to no feelings of self worth. When Richard did try and communicate it wasn't received well by his father who tried to silence him which it seems that he treated his mother the same way. Richard's mother accepted this treatment and taught Richard that women aren't good; something that he still keeps in the back of his mind. This makes Richard very hesitant to even want any type of relationships with people. Love is forsaken for the safety and security of money and the loneliness that follows without having someone to share it with. Because his parents "played the role" instead of Engaging in one another life Richard learned that that is how one handles a relationship. Whether he was aware of it or not Richard is following the same steps that his parents made and the end result will be him raising a child in the exact same way that he was raised if he doesn't make a conscious effort to find his own self-worth and the worth of his partner. That the need to communicate in a deep and meaningful way can be achieved if he really works at it since this concept was never shown to him within his own family. Even though Richard doesn't want to become like his father, he is the only person that he has to imitate and if he isn't able to reconcile his father's negative aspects within himself, creating a positive sense of masculinity then he will end up being him. Likewise if he doesn't reconcile his mother's negative aspects within himself, creating a positive sense of femininity then he will end up being antisocial and an inability to show affection or love. it is easier for Richard to seek comfort more in material things than in a pursuit of love.  Subconsciously Richard took these lessons to heart and this is where he begins to develop his fear of receiving love and affection from women, his inability to show love and affection, and the higher importance of money than love. From the parents relationship or lack their of we see that Richard didn't have a healthy sense of family; of the masculine and feminine principles and he didn't learn to have a sense of self due to his father's and mother's behavior up and until the age of 3.